The sulk vindicated!

As I so often do, I was roaming around Maria Popova’s superlative website Brain Pickings – how many hours I have spent enthralled by Maria’s epic act of intellectual generosity – and found this beautiful and very sweet quote from Alain De Botton. Finally, the sulk has been vindicated! Sulk on! Much love, Susie x

“At the heart of a sulk lies a confusing mixture of intense anger and an equally intense desire not to communicate what one is angry about. The sulker both desperately needs the other person to understand and yet remains utterly committed to doing nothing to help them do so. The very need to explain forms the kernel of the insult: if the partner requires an explanation, he or she is clearly not worthy of one. We should add: it is a privilege to be the recipient of a sulk; it means the other person respects and trusts us enough to think we should understand their unspoken hurt. It is one of the odder gifts of love.”

Alain De Botton